真愛，就不要等，除非是不想結婚

男孩也好女孩也好，一起看看幾米的讀白吧......

1.很清楚的知道她不合適自己，可是更確定的是他不會主動說分手。他只是耗著等著，直到有一天女生自己受不了忽冷忽熱、若即若離的態度， 或是等到年華老去不得不下決定時，自己選擇離開。

妳的主動離開，我沒有負心，反而是尊重與成全妳的決定。

2. 半年後發現，他居然可以跟一個只認識三個月的女生步入禮堂，令她晴天霹靂，才明白他不是不想結婚，不是真的不婚主義者，說穿了只是他不想跟妳結婚。八年的愛情長跑比不上三個月的感情。

3. 這位故事中的男生是我的朋友，現在也已經結婚半年。當他聽到劉若英的「後來」，居然會無法克制的流眼淚，
想起的是他交往八年的前任女友。為什麼會難過，因為妻子身上有著前任女友的影子，他才明白其實他喜歡的就是這種類型的女孩。

4. 可是人往往很矛盾，喜歡她的倔強與有性格，卻受不了她的嬌縱。喜歡她的落落大方，卻受不了她的朋友一堆；
你愛她的小家碧玉，就不要怪她不夠大方；你愛她的活潑大方，就不要批評她像花蝴蝶一樣。戀愛談的愈長，結婚的可能性就愈低，所以有時候戀愛的長度與結婚的可能性成反比。

5. 喜新厭舊是人性，日子久了，會結婚不是為了愛情，而是責任感的驅使。婚後的他才慢慢的發現，當時的那一段感情其實不是不愛，是時間太久了太長了，把愛情給 磨掉了，再遇到另一個女孩點燃了愛情的火苗，星星之火足以遼源，把枯竭已久的愛情給予生命，所以倉促的決定結婚。等到真的結婚後，愛情降了溫，才慢慢的發 現其實妻子的身上有著許多前任女友的影子，他比較愛的人其實還是前任女友，可是他娶的卻不是她。

這樣的情節不知道是不是也在別處同樣上演著？

6. 學生時代的愛情很單純，出社會以後總想等工作穩定以後再結婚，工作穩定以後又想等有一點積蓄買車子、買房子以後再結婚，等著等著，等到愛情被時光給消磨， 等到第三者介入點燃了對方心中激情的火苗，乾柴烈火不可收拾以後，曾經在年少一起織夢的理想全都抵擋不了新鮮感的激情，所以琵琶別抱，到最後步入禮堂的都 不是在一起同甘共苦、共同經歷過寒、暑假，等當兵的人。

7. 所以奉勸各位女孩子

如果對方真的是你想結婚的對象，不要想著有房子有車子有金子，有了一切再結婚。 現實是，等他有了一切，他的身價暴漲是有價值的單身貴族，他必需要面臨的是更多的誘惑，妳長久以來的等待與年輕時許下的山盟海誓都難以抵擋誘惑排山倒海的 來。 就像我現在若不嫁他，非得等到他有車子有房子還有存款時再結婚， 那時新娘有極高的可能不是我。 因為要等到什麼都有還要幾年？

有能力的男人就像酒愈久愈香醇，女人則像麵包一樣有賞味期限，青春是女人的天敵。 如果我是他，等到我三十五歲，什麼都有是個有上千萬身價的黃金單身漢，我並不需要一個很有能力而年過三十的女人來幫襯我，我寧可選個如花似玉，年輕貌美的 女生，也許沒有什麼工作能力，至少發揮了賞心悅目的功能，一個真正有能力的男人，不會在乎一個女人是否能在他的財富上加乘。

遇上對的人，莫等待莫蹉跎，也許沒有房子沒有車子，只要他認真上進，他就是張有潛力的積優股，早點進場獲利更高。

8. 也提醒各位男士，

如果對方真的是你想好好疼愛的女人，別讓她等太久，有她一起陪你奮鬥應該是很美好的一件事除非你心中有其他的想法，否則別讓愛情等太久，把真愛都磨掉了！雖然聽起來很殘忍, 但身邊的家人朋友都有類似的例子。

真愛，就不要等，除非是不想結婚......

以后你要和我一起辛苦啦！

主人公向女友求婚，说出了这巨台词："以后你要和我一起辛苦啦！"

看得出来，男主人公对未婚妻说这句话，内心是饱含歉意的：结婚，不会给你带来幸福，只会让你跟我一起吃苦。

我很欣赏这句台词。

人生皆苦。

没有知识的苦，没有道德的苦，没有金钱的苦，没有自由的苦，没有情感的苦，上学求知的苦，求职某业的苦，生儿育女的苦，病痛衰老的苦，死亡的苦。苦是生活本身。

结婚，这样一种把两个人联系在一起生活的形式，本身并不能改变生活的本质，生活的本质是苦的，结婚可以改变生活的外表、形式，改变不了生活的本质。

所以，结婚的时候，跟对方说"以后你要跟我一起吃苦了！"是很真实、很真心的话。

这样的话，要比"我爱你"真实。"我爱你"，你就得嫁给我？有什么理由？言下之意是你对我的爱，可以让我幸福吗？"爱"不可能让另一个人幸福，你爱一个人，只能让你自己觉得幸福。你有了寄托，有了成就感，那个被爱的人呢？生活的苦，不是一样样还要爱的、躲不过的。并不因为你有了别人对你的爱，就会减轻啊。

最近我有一个朋友离婚了，我问，为什么离婚呢？

他不说，只说早就离了。

我说：结婚就是两个人一起吃苦，如果你们结婚的时候这么想，就知道自己要不要结婚；如果结婚了，也就不会因为两个人都想从婚姻里拿"幸福"，结果两个人都拿不到而失望了；或者，就不会离婚了――本来就是一起来吃苦的，苦日子就过下去吧。

须知苦尽甘来啊。。。！！ 学会苦中做乐便会更快乐。。

Stephen Hawking: 'Humans Have Entered a New Stage of Evolution' - By Casey Kazan

Although It has taken homo sapiens several million years to evolve from the apes the useful information in our DNA has probably changed by only a few million bits. So the rate of biological evolution in humans, Stephen Hawking points out in his Life in the Universe lecture, is about a bit a year.

"By contrast," Hawking says, "there are about 50,000 new books published in the English language each year, containing of the order of a hundred billion bits of information. Of course, the great majority of this information is garbage, and no use to any form of life. But, even so, the rate at which useful information can be added is millions, if not billions, higher than with DNA."

This means Hawking says that we have entered a new phase of evolution. "At first, evolution proceeded by natural selection, from random mutations. This Darwinian phase, lasted about three and a half billion years, and produced us, beings who developed language, to exchange information."

But what distinguishes us from our cave man ancestors is the knowledge that we have accumulated over the last ten thousand years, and particularly, Hawking points out, over the last three hundred.

"I think it is legitimate to take a broader view, and include externally transmitted information, as well as DNA, in the evolution of the human race," Hawking said.

In the last ten thousand years the human species has been in what Hawking calls, "an external transmission phase," where the internal record of information, handed down to succeeding generations in DNA, has not changed significantly. "But the external record, in books, and other long lasting forms of storage," Hawking says, "has grown enormously. Some people would use the term, evolution, only for the internally transmitted genetic material, and would object to it being applied to information handed down externally. But I think that is too narrow a view. We are more than just our genes."

The time scale for evolution, in the external transmission period, has collapsed to about 50 years, or less.

Meanwhile, Hawking observes, our human brains "with which we process this information have evolved only on the Darwinian time scale, of hundreds of thousands of years. This is beginning to cause problems. In the 18th century, there was said to be a man who had read every book written. But nowadays, if you read one book a day, it would take you about 15,000 years to read through the books in a national Library. By which time, many more books would have been written."

But we are now entering a new phase, of what Hawking calls "self designed evolution," in which we will be able to change and improve our DNA. "At first," he continues "these changes will be confined to the repair of genetic defects, like cystic fibrosis, and muscular dystrophy. These are controlled by single genes, and so are fairly easy to identify, and correct. Other qualities, such as intelligence, are probably controlled by a large number of genes. It will be much more difficult to find them, and work out the relations between them. Nevertheless, I am sure that during the next century, people will discover how to modify both intelligence, and instincts like aggression."

If the human race manages to redesign itself, to reduce or eliminate the risk of self-destruction, we will probably reach out to the stars and colonize other planets. But this will be done, Hawking believes, with intelligent machines based on mechanical and electronic components, rather than macromolecules, which could eventually replace DNA based life, just as DNA may have replaced an earlier form of life.

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Lenard entry:

Interesting indeed to know how we as human had change or evolved and continue to evolving further.  Only hope is during this process of transformation we able to gain not only knowledge but most importantly wisdom and excel to become more wise and kind heart species in this universe, create and contribute more good rather then bad.

With the rapid changing of technology together with huge improvement in the infrastructure of high speed conductivities both in wire and wireless environment.  It's sure to become more and more faster and easier to contribute information both in the form of individual as well as in a collective group via latest web service like blog and twitter.  Also combination of social network website like Facebook, Friendster and many more that linked us all together and speed up the transferability and delivery of information and knowledge to each and every individual whom connected to it. 

Good Saleman 這才叫業務員∼

这就是我所谓的一个好的推销员或“超级销售人！ ”

了解你的客户以及并向他/她销售和交叉销售的所有相关物品，多用点更富有创意性的点子！

This is what I call a good saleman or "Super Sale Man!!"

Understand your clients well and promote and cross sale all relevant items to him/her! Be a bit more creative!!

這才叫業務員～

一個鄉下來的小夥子去應聘城裡大百貨公司的銷售員。
老闆問他："你以前做過銷售員嗎？"
他回答說："我以前是村子裡挨家挨戶推銷的小販子。"
對談之下，老闆蠻喜歡他的機靈："你明天可以來上班了。等下班的時候，我會來看一下。"


一天的光陰對這個鄉下來的窮小子來說太長了，而且還有些難熬。
但是年輕人還是熬到了5點，差不多該下班了。


老闆真的來了，問他說："你今天做了幾單買賣？"，
"一單，"年輕人回答說。
"只有一單？"老闆很吃驚地說："我們這兒的售貨員，一天基本上可以完成20到30單生意呢。那你賣了多少錢?"
"300,000美元，"年輕人回答道。
"你怎麼賣到那麼多錢的？"老闆目瞪口呆，半晌才回過神來。


"是這樣的..."鄉下來的年輕人說："一個男士進來買東西，我先賣給他一個小號的魚鉤，然後中號的魚鉤，最後大
號的魚鉤。接著，我賣給他小號的魚線，中號的魚線，最後是大號的魚線。我問他上哪兒釣魚，他說海邊。我建
議他買條船，所以我帶他到賣船的專櫃，賣給他長20英尺有兩個發動機的縱帆船。然後他說他的大眾牌汽車可能
拖不動這麼大的船 。我於是帶他去汽車銷售區，賣給他一輛豐田新款豪華型'巡洋艦'。"

老闆後退兩步，幾乎難以置信地問道："一個顧客僅僅來買個魚鉤，你就能賣給他多東西？

"不是的" 鄉下來的年輕售貨員回答道："他是來給他妻子買衛生棉的。我就告訴他~ " 你的週末這下沒搞頭了，幹嘛不去釣魚呢？ "

The young man from a village interview to become a sales person in a city department stores. The boss asked him: "Have you ever become a sale person before?" He replied: "I was a door-to-door sale person in my village." After the interview the boss found him to be a clever man and really like him: "You can come to work tomorrow. And will come and check on you after work." Time on that first working day the village young person was too long, but he manage to hang in there until 5:00pm, almost finish working for that day. The boss come, asked him: "How many sale you manage to get for today?" "Only one " replied the young. man. "Only one?" Was surprised by the boss and said: "The average sale person basically one day can get 20-30 sales or business. Then how much do you sell?" "300,000 dollars," replied the young. "How do you sell so much money in only one sale?" Boss stunned, recovered it for a long while. "... Well it's like this" Village young man said: "One man come in to buy something, I sold him a small fish hook, and then a medium size one then at last I sold him the big size hook. Then, I sell him small fish line, then the medium size fish line, and finally the large size fish line. I asked him where would he like to go fishing, he said the ocean . Then I suggested that he go and get a boat, so I took him to the special boat counter to sell him a boat, sell him a 20' feet long with two longitudinal engines boat. Then I told him that his Volkswagen probably might not able to drag such a big boat. I then took him to car sales area, sold his new Toyota luxury car 'cruisers'. " The boss took a two steps back, almost shocked and asked: "A customer just came to buy a fish hook, you able to sell him more than one item? "No" village young man replied: "At beginning he is only want to buy tampons for his wife. then I ask him ~" This weekend seem to be terrible for you, why don't you go for fishing? "