Saturday, August 19, 2006

5 Simple Steps to Creating Whatever You Desire By By Adrian Cooper

We will now look at the very important process of manifestation; the conscious creation of your own reality; the manifestation of your wishes and desires. Always remember; there is absolutely nothing that you cannot be, do or have.

It is highly advisable before embarking on any manifestation project to meditate upon, or consider very deeply whether you really do need and desire any specific objective to manifest into your life and the life of those around you. Sometimes what seems to be a very good idea and desirable idea at the time turns out to be decidedly less than desirable once it manifests as a reality into your life.

It is most important to think only in terms of genuine needs and never of greed or the demands of the ego, as for example would be the case if you were comparing yourself with others. Before you manifest money, for example, you should think or meditate very deeply on what this money, or anything else you wish to manifest will really add, not only to your own life but also to that of your family, loved ones and others around you.

The process of creating anything and everything you could possibly desire is a natural, God given ability that everyone possesses, it is just that most simply do not know or realise it. The Universe is infinitely abundant; there are no limits on wealth or anything else.

When you know beyond any doubt that you are indeed a creator, a co-creator within this magnificent Universe in which we live, an aspect of The Source, The First Cause, God, then you will know beyond any doubts in your very being that you can realise all of your wishes.

The 5-Step Process of Manifestation

The process of manifestation is conceptually extremely simple, consisting of the following five steps: Know, Ask, Experience, Action and Gratitude.

1) Know your desire.
2) Ask for your desire.
3) Experience your desire.
4) Action towards your desire.
5) Gratitude for your desire.

These five steps will enable you to manifest absolutely anything at all into your own physical reality. Once learned, you will apply these steps naturally in your ongoing existence, and you will become a conscious creator of your own reality, shaping your world in precise accordance with your desires. You can enjoy a magical life of unlimited joy, harmony and fulfilment, always knowing that there is absolutely nothing that you cannot be, do or have.

Let us now take a detailed look at each of these important steps to realising your wishes.

Step 1: Know your desire.

This might seem obvious, but in fact many people simply do not really know what they desire. They might think they want this, that or the other, but never really consider it in great depth.

A friend gets a new car for example, and the person immediately believes that they need a new car, often a better car. A person might go shopping in an expensive store and see something that they cannot afford but believe they need or must have anyway because it will enhance their life in some way. Sometimes people simply decide on a whim that they need a particular item or event in their lives.

Knowing what you really do want is an extremely important first step in the process of manifesting a desire. Before proceeding therefore take as much time as you need to contemplate your desire, and if necessary meditate on your desire or ask for guidance.

Consider in detail as to what the object of your desire will really bring to you. How will it really benefit you? How will it make you happy and enhance your reality? And most importantly how will it help you towards arriving at where you really need to be?

You really do need to take as much time as is necessary to decide and to actually know beyond any doubt that you genuinely need the object of your desire and that your life will be enhanced by it in a positive way. Only you can make this decision; no one else can make it for you. This is your own reality to create; it is reality of no one else. You are the one who will need to live with whatever you bring into your reality, as well as being completely responsible for its affect on your family and all those around you.

It is also important to only focus on one objective at a time. Never waste your time and Energy by simply wishing, daydreaming or fantasizing about numerous things. You must decide on exactly what one single thing at a time that you really, genuinely need and desire above all else, and focus your entire Energy on that desire until such time as it has manifested into your life. There is no time limit on this step because it is so fundamentally important.

Finally you should never, ever, ever ask for money. As we have already discussed, money is, in and of itself totally meaningless. It is a merely a human construct, an object, a notional method of exchange which as far as the Universe is concerned is no more than Energy in the form of bits of physical metal, paper or electronic bits and bytes stored on a computer system. The Universe is infinitely abundant, everything you could possibly wish for already exists, however large or small, and all you need to do is to bring it into your physical awareness, and therefore your physical reality. Always ask for exactly what you want, and never place a monetary value upon it and again never, but never, ever ask for money.

Once you know beyond all doubt what you really want, you can proceed to the next step.

Step 2: Ask for your desire.

Ask and you shall receive. These are indeed ancient and most wise words.

Every wish is immediately and unconditionally granted; all we need to do is to know how to receive. It is in the receiving however that most people fail to realise their wishes.

Asking is in and of itself an important and very precise step in this process. You need to be positive, unambiguous and precise about how you ask for your desire to be realised. The asking process can be purely in the Mind, however one of the most powerful methods of asking is to simply write down your request on paper. The physical action of writing down your desire impresses your wish on your subconscious Mind that is directly in communication with The Source, as well as focussing your intentions, wishes and desires in a positive and unambiguous way.

Always write down your wish in the present tense. We have discussed and emphasised this previously and we must do so once again. You already have everything you could possible desire. All you need to do is to ask The Universe, The Source, God to bring it into your personal reality in order that you may physically experience it.

If for example you used the words "I want", then you will realise a perpetual state of "wanting". Remember, ask and you shall receive. "Wanting" is a human concept, but nevertheless one which the Universe will gladly provide upon request. Never "want" something, otherwise you will find yourself perpetually wanting that thing and never actually receiving it.

Your written request should be in the present tense and as short, precise and to the point as possible. There is no need to write an essay on why you must have this desire, simply state it exactly as you wish for it to manifest into your own physical reality. The subconscious Mind, although sublime and immensely powerful, being the majority of the totality of the Mind, is very child-like in the way it perceives instructions. The subconscious Mind will usually perceive direct instructions but not the rationale. If you endeavour to explain the reasons for your desire the subconscious might well either disregard or confuse what you are impressing upon it, and the results will reflect that.

The correct way to ask in the present tense could be as follows: "I now have a new car. My new car is blue in colour, has five doors and a CD player", I am really enjoying my new car". You may also add any other features you desire but keep the list to the point and above all totally unambiguous.

It is very important indeed having completed this step not to begin to long for the object of your wish to appear, or to wonder where it is, or in particular become frustrated. These are negative thoughts and emotions that will have a correspondingly negative impact on the object of your desires. You must know beyond any doubt whatsoever that your wish has already been granted in full, and that all you need to do now is to bring it into your physical reality.

It is also most important to have complete and absolute faith in The Universe, The Source, God, to bring the object of your desire into your physical reality. Any lack of faith will have a very negative effect on attracting the object of your wishes into your physical experiential reality by sending out vibrations that say you do not believe the object of your desire will manifest into your reality, in which case it will be granted and will not manifest.

You have now asked and it has already been given. All you need to do now is to allow your wish to appear within your personal, physical awareness and reality.

Step 3: Experience your desire.

Experiencing is an extremely important step towards allowing and therefore receiving the object of your desire into your physical reality. In order to experience what you have asked for you must allow it to manifest into your physical reality by The Law of Attraction, and that means bringing your Energy vibration into harmony with the desires you have already asked for and have been given. This is a fundamentally important step, and one that many people fail to realise when they are subconsciously transmitting wishes, thus failing to attract and experience the object of their asking.

Everyone constantly transmits desires whether they are aware of it or not. These desires are in the form of vibrations sent out to the Universe. The reason that most people are not aware of this is because they simply are not in a vibrational harmony allowing them to receive the object of their desires.

Allowing is to receive, and a very powerful method of receiving is to experience. Experiencing the object of your wishes will bring you into vibrational harmony with those wishes, thus enabling them to be attracted and manifest into your personal, physical reality.

By experiencing we do not mean physical experience because by this time you will not have the physical object or situation manifest in your experiential physical reality. The experience is therefore at this stage one of the imagination.

Whenever you have the opportunity to remain undisturbed for a time and your Mind is clear of other thoughts, sit down comfortably, relax as deeply as possible by taking a few deep breaths, and imagine yourself to be in the presence of the object or situation of your desires.

This process is particularly powerful just before sleep at night and just after awaking in the morning and before arising from bed. Use all five senses within your imagination to the maximum extent in order to experience your desires. Feel it, live it and be an integral part of it. For the time you are involved with this exercise you must be totally at one with the object of your desires. This process can be likened to playing a movie film in your head, in vivid Technicolor and surround-sound, while experiencing every aspect of the situation with all of your senses. This is one reason why we practiced creative visualisation in the previous chapter, creative visualisation utilising all the sense being a very powerful way of experiencing your desires and bringing your Energy into vibrational harmony with your desires.

While playing this movie in your Mind feel all of the emotions involved as intensely as possible that are associated with physically experiencing your desires now.

Always remember that desires, wishes and expectations are all in the present tense, and should never, ever be expressed or thought of as "wanting" which implies a perpetual state of lack and never receiving. Wishes, desires and expectations are always in the present tense, knowing, beyond any doubts whatsoever that the object of your desires already exists within the Eternal Now of The Universe and your inner reality, and that all that you have to do is to receive the object of your desires into your own personal reality.

Step 4: Action towards your desires.

Although the Universe, The Source, God will deliver into your physical reality anything that you desire, wish and ask for, it will empower the process considerably if your also take your own steps in the direction of your desires. This has many positive benefits including reinforcing on your subconscious Mind your total commitment to realising your desires in a totally unambiguous way.

This is does not of course mean that you physically have to go out there and do everything yourself. By taking positive steps in the direction of your desire you invoke another very powerful Energy, the Energy of intent. The Energy of intent will work in conjunction with the knowing, asking and experiencing in a very powerful way by reinforcing your claim on the object of your desire that already exists in the Eternal Now of the Universe.

In addition to the Energy of intent you must also firmly impress upon your subconscious Mind the fact that you are very serious indeed about materialising the object of your desire into your physical experiential reality. Your subconscious Mind is extremely powerful and is in direct communication with The Source. If you therefore have your subconscious Mind as well as your conscious Mind influencing all of the necessary Energy in the direction of bringing the object of your desire into your physical reality, it will be much more powerful and the object of your desire will manifest sooner as a result.

If for example you wish to manifest a new house, you should take positive actions to physically go out and look for one. You do not have to worry about whether you can afford it or not, that would be a negative emotion resulting in the negative influence of Energy, and in any case the realisation of your house is not your concern, it is for the Universe, The Source, God to materialise the object of your desires, your wishes your request into your own reality.

In the case of your new house, the very act of physically going out and looking for the house of your desires will not only project the positive Energy of intent, but will also very considerably and favourably influence other emotions such as excitement, all of which will add to the net positive effect on the positive Energy you are harmonising towards realising your desires. The same principle applies to any material thing or situation; the more you physically take steps in the direction of your desire, the more emotion you can feel as a result, and the more you can integrate the object of your desire into your very Being, the more powerful will be the effect, and the sooner you will be able to realise it within your physical reality.

So whatever you do you must take positive action towards your desires. The bigger and the more positive and frequent the action the better; but take some sort of action you must. Never take the Universe for granted and never wait until tomorrow, because the next day you will defer until tomorrow again, and you will never take that important first positive action in the direction of your desires.

As soon as you know your desire, have asked for it, and are experiencing it, you must then take steps towards it and allow the Universe to manifest your desire into your physical experiential reality in ways The Universe will take care of.

Step 5: Gratitude for your desire.

Gratitude is another extremely important emotional Energy that you really must project during the course of manifesting your desires.

In the context of manifestation, gratitude is another extremely powerful emotion. The power of gratitude functions at several levels. To feel sincerely grateful is to be in tune with the Universe. It conveys the Energy that you already know and appreciate the fact that you are an integral aspect of The Universe, and that you are grateful for being a conscious, infinite, immortal being and co-creator within the magnificent Universe in all of its Energy levels of splendour, glory and creation. You know beyond any doubt whatsoever that you are an integral, inseparable aspect of The Divine and that you live as an immortal Spiritual being who has been blessed with the Divine ability to create your very own reality.

Gratitude also conveys an acknowledgement for having received the object of your desire. Remember; you must always at all times think in terms of physically having the object of your desire actually within your physical possession. Along with those thoughts should be the feeling of the most intense gratitude for what you have already received from The Universe. Gratitude makes the object of your desires a real, tangible, integral aspect of your own reality, and the more real it is to you the sooner it will manifest into your personal experiential reality.

Gratitude conveyed with genuine sincerity brings you more into harmony with the Universe, and with it you become an even more natural creator of your desires. Those people who are completely aligned with the Universe, The Source, God are natural creators who live what seems to others like a "charmed", magical life, instantly manifesting anything at all into their own reality, the microcosm at will, just as God creates within the entire Universe, the Macrocosm. Such people are true Magicians, wizards and creators, and nothing is impossible to them.

Never, ever take anything at all for granted. Always feel deeply grateful for everything that happens in your reality, regardless of whether you consciously attracted it or whether you perceive it to be positive or negative. In the grand scheme of things everything that manifests into your physical reality is directly for the benefit of your own personal evolution, and you should be most grateful for it whether you consciously brought it into your own reality or not.

Being deeply grateful also helps to ensure that you never convey the Energy of dissatisfaction, which is a very negative Energy, and therefore from a physical perspective a very destructive emotion. Dissatisfaction, ungratefulness or unhappiness will send the wrong Energy into the Universe, which will in turn react with immutable perfection in reciprocating those negative emotions with more of the same. So whatever you feel dissatisfied, ungrateful or unhappy about will appear into your physical reality even stronger than ever, creating a vortex of negative Energy as causes with correspondingly negative effects.

Conversely, those things that you feel extremely satisfied, grateful and happy about will create a much higher, positive vibration, attracting more of the same into your life. The Universe always naturally moves in the direction of expansion and evolution, and never of contraction or destruction, so positive emotions are always much more powerful than negative emotions even though they are both Energy causes with the corresponding effects.

These then are the five powerful steps to attracting anything you could possibly desire into your life, where you can enjoy those desires into your own experiential physical reality. All of these five steps are individually very powerful indeed in their own right, but collectively they influence Energy so powerfully that you can manifest almost anything you desire into your personal reality with what might seem like amazing speed. You will soon come to know the truth that there is nothing that you cannot be, do or have. This process is an entirely aspect of the Universe; God always intended us to be joyous creators in the microcosm just as He/She is a joyous creator in the Macrocosm, and it is the destiny of mankind to understand these truths thereby realising the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth.

The entire Universe always moves in the direction of expansion, evolution and life, and as an extension of The Source Energy it is your destiny to live in harmony with The Universe, The Source, with God. So create joyfully in the knowledge that you are fulfilling your role as a co-creator in the Universe. The Universe is infinitely abundant and enjoys infinite expansion and growth. Never therefore be ashamed, hesitant or unhappy about creation; create anything and everything you desire with great Joy, Love and Gratitude in the certain knowledge that you are an immortal aspect of God, a Spiritual Being, a co-creator within this magnificent Universe as you joyfully fulfil the ultimate reality of evolving back to The First Cause, The Source, back to God from when you first came as an immortal Spiritual Being.

KNOW WHAT YOU REALLY WANT! By Lisa Jimenez, M. Ed.

If you want to conquer fear, breakthrough limiting beliefs, and live a life you love, you need to know what you really want. What do you really want?
 
It seems odd that grown people would not know what they want and often don't hold the power to act on their dreams. Yet, it is very common. Kids, on the other hand seem t know exactly what they want. Why? One reason is that they have the time to daydream, fantasize, and think. Adults, with busy schedules, don't take the time to do this. If you haven't asked yourself lately what you want, then you probably don't know the answer. You are either living out someone else's dream for you or you are settling for what's simply good when you could have what is best! Either of these two scenarios lead to an unfulfilled life of someone asking, "Is this all there is?"
 
Take some time to daydream – right now. Think about what your dream life would look like? What time would you get up most mornings? Who would be in your life? What would your day look like? What job would you have? How would you be spending your time?

Keep a dream book where you write down (and even draw pictures) of what your dream life would look like. The most amazing this will happen: You will begin watching yourself grow into your dreams! You'll look back at your dreams of five years ago and think, "Gosh, I did that – no problem."
 
There is so much power in knowing what you want. Clarity gives you power. When you know what you want, and you begin acting on those wants (even in small ways), every day of your life looks more exciting. You'll look back and see unfolding miracles that make your dream happen. If it's true that God give you the desires of your heart, then it is imperative that you know your desires and have the courage to communicate them. You will begin the process of creating them b first taking the time to realize them!
 
Know What You Really Want!

Love & Marriage


  Love & Marriage  (do u agree?)

A student ask a teacher, "what is  love ?" The  teacher said, "in order to answer your question,  go to the padi  field and choose the biggest padi and come back.    

But the  rule is: you can go throught them only once and cannot turn back to pick."      

The  student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big padi,but he  wonders....may be there is a bigger  one later. Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him.  Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realise  that the padi is not as big as the previous one he saw, heknow he has missed the  biggest one, and he regretted !!!!

So, he ended up went back to the teacher  with empty hand.      

The  teacher told him, "...this is love... you keep looking for a better one, but  when later you realise, you have already miss the person...."       

"  What is  marriage then ?" the  student asked.    

The  teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose  the biggest corn and come back.      

But  the rule is: you can go throught them only once and cannot turn back to pick.    

   " The student went to the corn field, this  time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle  of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back  to the teacher.      

   The teacher told him, "this time you bring  back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and  believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage  ."  

  

  

Wednesday, August 16, 2006

Carrot, Egg & Coffe


A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make
it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water
and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first
she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she
placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a
word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the
carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a
bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She
did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter
to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed
the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the
coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, "What does it mean?"

Her mother explained each of the objects had faced the same adversity -
boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being
subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid
interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became
hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the
boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with
pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a
financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and
stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and
tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,
the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it
releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things
are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.


When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you
elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you
a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make
you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you
happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The
brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go
forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

You may want to send this message to those people who mean something
to you; to those who have touched your life in one way or
another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those
who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down;
to those whose friendships you appreciate; to those who are so
meaningful in your life.

If you don't send it, you will just miss out on the opportunity to
brighten someone's day with this message!

It's easier to build a child than repair an adult!

This is so true - may we all be COFFEE!!

Monday, August 07, 2006

LIFE WOULD BE EASY...IF IT WEREN'T FOR PASSIVE PEOPLE By Connie Podesta

Have you ever said "yes" when you meant "no"? Agreed to do something you really didn't want to do? Given in to someone's demands because you didn't want to make them angry or hurt their feelings? If so, then you have used a passive communication style.

The Passive Personality - Path of Least Resistance

Indeed, there are some times when you will decide it is not worth the hassle, anguish, frustration, time or energy to deal assertively with a person or situation. Instead, you choose to ignore or avoid the problem, often hoping it will just go away. These are your passive times.

Passive personalities are intimidated when faced with manipulative anger and feel guilty when faced with manipulative hurt. Passives may avoid a confrontation, but in so doing they create a great deal of unhappiness for themselves. Most stress is caused by avoiding problems and people rather than dealing with them.

No more excuses, please.

People with passive personalities love to tell themselves that their input does not matter. They even make excuses when someone is treating them badly. Rather than place the blame on the manipulator, they often blame themselves saying, "It must be me. Something I did caused this to happen." The passive plays right into the hand of the aggressive personality.

It's easy to see why aggressives love to work with, be friends with and marry passive people. Aggressives like to push others to the limit to see just how much they can get away with. Passives often fail to set any limits at all. They would rather let others make the decisions so they do not have to be responsible if things do not work out.

 
We all have the power to make our own choices as adults and we have the obligation to assume responsibility for those choices. No one will treat us any better than we expect to be treated. You may have experienced things in your life over which you had no control, but you can control how you allow those experiences to define you as a person.

There are two main reasons passives have a hard time with confrontation. Many simply hate the physiological changes that take place in their bodies when they are in a tense situation. The fear of what might happen if you take a stand combined with the anger and frustration of not speaking up is enough to make anyone ill. Many more learned at a young age that in order to stay out of trouble they needed to keep their heads down and their mouths shut.

Assertive is about taking control of your life. Passive is about letting go of control and handing it to others. Setting boundaries means identifying healthy and ethical principles upon which to base your life and making sure that how you treat others and are treated by others is within the framework of those principles.

How do passives get their way?

They seldom do. Passives generally have low esteem as a result of making unhealthy, even self-destructive, choices. Passive people usually avoid saying "no" in order to be nice. They think the only alternative to being nice is to be mean or selfish. Aggressives enjoy being around passive people because passives allow them to do their own thing, in their own time, in their own way, even if it involves manipulation and/or abuse.

Passives are generally intuitive people who play a game called "let's see if you can guess what I want". The problem is that they expect others to do the same for them. This "testing" usually leads to their disappointment.

Surprisingly, the passive person values healthy, assertive principles for everyone but themselves. They do not believe they deserve what they work so hard to give to everyone else. In the passive person's futile attempt to be all things to all people, they often fail to live up to the very principles they work so diligently to model.

When passivity becomes our default response, then we have a problem because not only do we continue to "compromise" with nothing gained, but our ethics and values are inevitably compromised as well. As a result, our self-esteem is diminished. Compromising with another person is one thing. Compromising ourselves is quite another. It is nearly impossible to maintain a healthy sense of self-respect when passive is the communication style of choice.

Take Action!
 
Think about a time when you chose to be passive.

Why did you choose to be passive? Were you afraid of hurting someone's feelings? Were you afraid of making someone angry?

Do you often wish you had said or done something instead of remaining silent? If so, think about communicating more assertively in the future.

 

if u work over time....something wrong there....

Mr. Narayana Murthy is undoubtedly one of the most famous persons from
Karnataka. He is known not just for building the biggest IT Empire inIndia
but also for his simplicity. Almost every important dignitary visits InfoSys
campus. He delivered an interesting speech during an employee session with
another IT company in India . He is incidentally, one of the top 50
influential people of Asia according to an Asiaweek publication and also the
new IT Advisor to the Thailand Prime Minister.

Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy's Speech during Mentor Session:

I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary.Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I do not know if theyare working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long. Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace.

Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the
long term is harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things
managers can do to change this for everyone's benefit. Being in the office
long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors.

My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes
caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as
the time and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through
Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not
pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who are not
working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people
avoid them. Such behaviour poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another.

As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office.
First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with
a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose
their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday.

Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For
instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:
1)  Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2)  Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3)  Go home.
4)  Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with
your kids, etc.
5)  Eat well and sleep well
.
 
This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2. Working
regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for
some of us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since
we all have the power to choose to do them.

In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When
he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall
asleep no matter how long the visit was, and no matter what time of day it
was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was
afraid that he would miss some thing. Once our visitors' left, he would go
to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through
half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for
his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they do not want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events
will never stop happening. That is life! Things happen 24 hours a day.
Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things
will happen while you are asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up
when you wake.

Hence,
"LOVE YOUR JOB, BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN THE COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU"
 

Thursday, August 03, 2006

Your Little Finger show your character...



Know yourself better!

FRIENDSHIP by Zig Ziglar


Somebody remarked that a stranger is simply a friend you haven't met. My trusty 1828 Noah Webster dictionary says that a friend is one who is attached to another by affection, which leads him to desire his company, or one who has sufficient interest to serve another.

The dictionary definition amply describes Mike Corbett who, along with his friend Mark Wellman, started the assault on El Capitan on July 19, 1989. El Capitan is a sheer rock wall 3,569 feet above the floor of Yosemite Valley in northern California. It is one of the most difficult mountains for rock climbers to scale. The combination of difficulty and danger is sufficient to test the strength and courage of even the world's most elite climbers.
 
It took Wellman and Corbett seven days to make the climb. They encountered temperatures of up to 105 degrees and wind gusts that made the ascent even more difficult. When they reached the summit, Corbett stood in triumph, but Wellman just kept his seat. Wellman is the first person to scale El Capitan without the use of his legs.

Wellman had given up climbing in 1982 after he was paralyzed as the result of a fall. From that point on the only rock climbing he did was in his dreams. Then Corbett convinced him they could climb the mountain together. Wellman certainly couldn't have done it without Corbett, who led the way and helped Wellman move through each stage, higher and higher. On the seventh day, Corbett was unable to secure the pitons in the loose rock skirting the summit. Knowing that a misstep would send them both plunging to their deaths, Corbett hoisted Wellman onto his back and clambered the remaining distance to the top.

An old but very true statement holds that if you would have a friend, be a friend. I encourage you to be a friend as Mike Corbett was to Mark Wellman.